LALA!

1. Think positive thoughts. When you find yourself thinking a negative thought, stop it immediately by any means necessary. Slap yourself in the face, yell something positive at the top of your lungs or jump up and down. Do whatever it takes to get back to a positive mindset as such is essential for continual happiness and success. -http://www.highexistence.com/life-secrets-and-tips/comment-page-1/

Does anybody have any tips as to maintain a positive mindset. This is one of my biggest challenges in my adulthood. I never noticed the toll it took on me as a kid growing up, but I recognize I don't need to feel responsible for taking care of people. It's been difficult keeping up with positivity being in this weird transitional state between being a college student and an adult. I feel like an adult in every possible way. Honestly, I love it.

I used to think that having a positive mindset meant pure nativity. Now, not so much. I am able to conceive a realistic and positive mindset. I often feel that our culture is very restraining when it comes to feelings. One minute we're supposed to be strong patriarchs and then the next we should be self-mourning for all our pain. Seriously, we all just need a happy friggin medium. This is how I learned to have a happy medium.

1. Write as much as possible. Even if it's one word and you end up drawing a picture around it. Even if it's a conversation you overhead. Writing does more good than bad, in my opinion, and every time you pick up a pencil or type on your keyboard, your mind is expanding. Thus, you as a person are growing.

2. Look at the world through an artistic lens. No, you don't have to be a super artist to do this, but someone with an open mind. Pay attention to the miraculous details that surround us. Look at the cracks in leaves, or the way a tree bends, or even the way your sibling looks without makeup. Once you do this, you may feel you've been granted the grace of thoughtful perception as a person.

3. Laugh. Laugh your ass off as much as you can. I often get bogged down with politics and social disasters, but it's merely a choice. Choice to laugh and smile and not take every word so seriously in this world because it'll make you feel burnt out, I promise.

4. Love as many people as you can. Tell people you appreciate them and value their presence in your life because you don't know how much longer they will be by your side. Love through touch, words, smells, sights, laughing, sex, reading, ect. You get the point!

I always remind myself that I'm a good person at heart and that will take me far. People often overlook those who are genuine souls, but I promise you you are getting more from life than others simply by being that person.


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I feel really bad for my partner. He's just too damn young to have a permanent nerve condition, possibly TM. I feel more aggravated because it's interfering to intensely with his future goals. He needs to continue his work with Positive Education/Psychology because the world needs it and, moreover, it's his new found passion. The distance has been really impacting me and my mindset. I adore having a long distance relationship, but there are most definitely trialing times where you wish the space could close a little but. I don't self-victimize because it's my choice to be here and I want is so badly. But there are many days where I want more. More passion. More kissing. More one on one time. Honestly, It's worth the wait every single time. I'm only having one of "those moments," but it will pass. Gosh, all I really want to do is cuddle and kiss him until the pain goes away and he drifts to sleep.

I have a habit of distracting myself with particular people, sometimes to a borderline unhealthy point. I can't replace anybody with anybody. Not my old best friend, or my partner. It's just so easy though because you don't have to think or feel emotionally vulnerable...until later. I feel so guilty whenever this happens, which is rare, but I still catch myself. It's not fair to anybody. Still, some nights there is sad silence in my head because I still don't want to come to complete terms with the changes in my life. I still have moments where I imagine myself verbally standing up for myself, but I fail to see my silence and acceptance as strength. Some days I just don't feel strong enough to think that I lost two best friends of over 10 years. I try not to take it personally, but, as you may imagine, it's a very personal happening. Still, my truth and fact is that I did the best I could, and I left on terms of my own. I can't deal with close friends not respecting me and thinking I will stick around. The old me would, but the new me will not, and that is a promise.

I just can't believe your gone sometimes and you're less than 10 miles away from me. Literally right down the street and, yet, life goes on.

Babysitting tomorrow! It'll be so nice to be around a young child again. They give me so much spirit and life...when they're happy little buggers. :)

I don't know who may be reading this. Perhaps no one but myself, haha. But I hope you having a wonderful night and you are maintaining a realistic, positive mindset.

Laugh!